The Assertiveness Program Module 7
Module 7 explores the essential skill of handling criticism assertively, distinguishing between constructive and destructive criticism. Constructive criticism is described as helpful and aimed at fostering growth, while destructive criticism often seeks to demean or hurt.
The module examines how childhood experiences with criticism can shape responses, leading to passive, aggressive, or assertive behaviours. Passive responses may involve self-blame or avoidance, while aggressive responses can escalate conflicts. Assertive responses allow individuals to remain calm, evaluate the feedback, and respond appropriately.
Practical techniques for addressing criticism are introduced, including:
- Accepting Constructive Criticism: Viewing feedback as an opportunity to learn and grow.
- Negative Assertion: Agreeing calmly with valid criticisms without feeling diminished.
- Negative Inquiry: Seeking clarification to better understand the criticism and respond thoughtfully.
- Fogging/Defusion: Agreeing partially or hypothetically to reduce the emotional charge of destructive criticism.
The module also covers strategies for giving constructive criticism, highlighting the importance of timing, focusing on behaviour rather than the person, using "I" statements, and offering specific suggestions for change.
By mastering these skills, individuals can handle criticism constructively, maintain self-esteem, and improve relationships. The module encourages regular practice to build confidence in managing criticism assertively.
Module 7 of The Assertiveness Workbook in downloadable Pdf Format.